• The Power Of Habits

  • Motivation is where it starts, but it’s the habits that keep it going!

    How many of you have in the past wanted to accomplish something, and well it didn’t happen? You were motivated to get going,  may have even set a goal, and then “changed it” down  the road when it wasn’t happening fast enough.

    My guess is that somewhere along the way, you became unable or even unwilling to take action and wanted instant results based on what you’ve already done. You may have even lost faith in the universal truth that the simple little habits done again and again over time is what really brings about true success. Perhaps you did what so many of us do….you put an agenda on a goal, and you stop taking action before you reach it…

    Each and every one of us can have the best intentions in the world, but if we don’t follow up and take action on what  motivated us initially, we’ll get nowhere. 

    You see people in general are looking for that quantum leap, that silver bullet, that magic pill that will catapult them towards their dreams. When things go wrong, they want to know the one event, or the big mistake that caused things to mess up. The problem is that it isn’t the big things that direct the course of your life.  It is the everyday simple habits that compounded over time will add up to your biggest accomplishments or your biggest failures.

    I really believe that it’s not the big stuff.  It’s all the little things that we do everyday, the stuff that doesn’t look like it matters, but really does, that make our lives what they are. When we understand that the choices we make have a direct impact on our life, each and every time we make one, we begin to recognize that we have the power to create what ever it is that we want.  And understanding that power is what builds confidence and gives you the incentive to keep moving forward.

    We all know that success comes from activity, but how many of us know that “failing” comes from taking action as well.  Is it the same action, absolutely NOT, but the choices that we make each and every day take us closer to our goals or farther away from them, every time, no exceptions. The big choices  have an immediate impact, while smaller choices may not be felt today at all. Which is why they are easy NOT to keep doing.  They don’t have an instant impact, so we don’t see the importance. But what I want you to understand is that it is all those small everyday choices, those small choices that are as easy to make as not to make, have the biggest impact on your life. And those small choices are the difference between success and failure.

    The habits that we act on, on a daily basis determine whether or not we are successful, not the big break or the miraculous stroke of luck.  So the next time you are wondering why you aren’t moving forward ask yourself, what choices, what habits am I doing on a regular basis.  My guess is that the things your routinely are doing aren’t forward moving at all…..more than likely your habits are keeping you right where you are at.

     

    ~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and entrepreneur as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com

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