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Thoughts on thinking – by Judy Davis, The Direction Diva

Yes you read the title right…I’m not going crazy…I haven’t turned into Dr. Suess… but I have been having thoughts on thinking

With all the changes and craziness going on in the Davis family no wonder my mind has been in a twirl.  It seems that I the more I think, the more twhirly my thoughts get.  One moment I can be trying to figure out what to have for dinner and the next I’m caught up in the logistics of our upcoming totally packed summer.  It’s like the thoughts I think are all over the place. So when one of these twhirly tangents got me wondering if what was going on in my life, in my mind, was helpful or not.  So I thought, who better to wonder with, than you!

So here is my question…..Do the thoughts we think hold us back?

I believe that it IS possible for our thoughts to hold us back, depending on what we are thinking about.  Why?  Because, each and every day we make choices based on what we think about. And over time, these choices really can add up and change the direction that our lives are headed.

I know that when I think too much I get caught up in the “what-if spin” and that is never good!  I start to stress and worry because my thoughts build on each other and that’s when the twirl begins.  For me, it’s only a matter of time until  I become unfocused and unproductive.  All because each thought lead to another, and before I know it the negative thoughts can build up.

However, if I “mind my mind“, and stop the twirl before it gets out of control, I’m able to see the issue, find a solution and accomplish what I set out to do. No twirl, no what-if spin and I can continue moving forward.

I have talked about having children, and I think that this shows up exponentially in their lives. It’s almost as if what they think about turns into reality instantly. Maybe it’s that they are so much more connected I don’t know….but if they think they will do well on an exam, they will.  If a fear rises in their mind, you can bet that they will have to address that situation in some way.  The thoughts they think about impact and influence their lives more than any other factor. And until now I really didn’t get that.

And it’s the same for adults, we become what we think about more often than not. Sometimes this is a good thing, and other times it can be detrimental. If I look in the mirror and feel fat, you can bet that those thoughts affect how I eat and exercise that day.  If my thoughts are filled with confidence and pride you know I’m walking with my head high and focus in my eyes.

So in answer to my question, Do the thoughts we think hold us back.  The answer is if we aren’t careful they will.  So for the next few weeks, that’s my “thing” to work on….Minding my mind and tending to my thoughts, and hopefully the tangent twirls will go away and instead of my mind thinking on my thoughts I may be able to get something done!

I’d love to hear your comments and stories of how your thoughts affect your life.


~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and entrepreneur as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at


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