• Car Rides…My Secret Get Away

  • Have you ever been driving along and then all of a sudden the solution, a new idea or even that elusive fact on the tip of your tongue, just pops into your head?

    I don’t know about you, but often when I’m in the car, I get what I call “driving downloads”.  It’s like I begin driving and my mind just relaxes.  I stop going over all the “to do’s“, I don’t think about the emails that still need answering, I quit stressing about what I didn’t get done and I let go of the fact that once again  I forgot to mail that letter.  I just allow myself to be, and leave my “business hat” at home.  It’s like my brain just starts to unravel and work thru all the clutter and twhirliness. It’s not forced, and it’s nice.  In those car rides that I can be in semi autopilot, I get to leave my business, my work and even my entire professional life behind for just a few moments.

    You see in the car I can get quiet. Not the silent kind of quiet, I mean 90% of the time I have our GSP Cassie with me who is NOT quiet because she knows that at some point along the way we will be stopping at her favorite dog park that I ranted about in Thoughts on Dog Parks, Playgrounds and Grocery Stores.  But in my car, I don’t turn on the radio, my business line isn’t ringing, heck I may have even turned my cell phone to silent.  It’s in those moments that the humm of the traffic becomes something like white noise and I get to escape my life as a military spouse.

    I have always liked driving, except for that short time we were stationed in El Paso when I did all I could to just go out a couple of times a week(driving there was nerve-wracking!). But more and more I have started looking forward to the quiet that the car brings.  Not because I don’t like working from home or because I need to get out, but because the peacefulness of the car ride allows me to listen.

    I realized that with my busy life and crazy schedule  all the “stuff”  causes me to stop listening.

    I stop listening to the part of me that knows when I need to slow down.  I stop listening to the voice that helps me make choices that move me forward. I stop listening when my business brain says I’m trying to do to many things at once (which for me translates to not doing anything well).  When I stop listening I tend to bottle up my stress and move into the working harder is better mode, when I know working hard AND working smart is best for me and my business.

    Car rides are a bit like meditation, they rejuvenate, relax and focus me. When I “get away“, get quiet and listen, I do a better job of balancing my life as a WAHM with all the other “roles” I have chosen to play.  But it can’t help me from wondering…. if I “kick it up a notch” and find someone to Drive Ms. Judy couldn’t I accomplish so much more?

    Maybe I need to have a little chat with my hubby on that one…


    ~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and lifestyle blogger as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at TheDirectionDiva.com

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