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Milspouse Life: A Cure For Boredom

The other day as I was IMing (Instant Messaging) with a fellow army wife, we were chatting about our day and how we had spent our time since we had spoken last.  The conversation seemed par for the course; Our days had been long, busy and downright boring, and we were both wishing we were still stationed in the same place so we could hang out and chat in person. As military spouses we missed the day-to-day interaction and the security of knowing there was that person you could count on who didn’t judge (HUGE military life bonus).

Yes we were suffering from what felt just like boredom. Now don’t get me wrong, we both have lots to do.   We have tons of activities, work, errands, kids, pets and other “stuff” on our plates. I couldn’t believe we were talking about how “bored” we were, I mean shoot I don’t think she has had a day off from kids since I don’t know when, and she just laughs at my “life with a puppy” stories… It shocked me that I didn’t get why we kept saying we were bored.  And we weren’t the only one’s.

Over and over these last few weeks not only us, but friends, family and other army wives have been “bored” and “blah”.  The weird part is that we are all busy…so I began to wonder why these feelings kept popping up…

And what I figured out was that we weren’t bored!  The reality is that we had gotten into a cycle where we weren’t filling our days with things that were important to us.  Our days were filled with activities that were important to someone, but they didn’t really mattered to us.  And when that happens I don’t know about you but it’s a down hill slippery slope…My thoughts wander, I lose focus, I get out of my routine, my workouts non-existent, my eating …sheesh and I tend to lump all the emotions together and label the resulting feelings as “boredom”.

So I began to wonder…. if the blah’s and boredom are filling our days, the thing I need to do is find something to do that matters.  I realized I needed to start asking questions like…..What action can I take that are fun AND productive? What thing can I do that is important to ME, and  then make time to do it.  So how can we counter this sense of unrest?

It may be as simple as taking a walk and thinking about what you are grateful for, it may be writing a letter to a loved one or it may be taking a class in a new area of interest. It may even be changing up the daily routine.

No matter what it is, if what we are doing matters an interesting thing will occur ….our boredom will go away, our spirit will be renewed and we will feel energized once again.

We all want to do things with our lives that matter…and that’s a good thing.


~Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author and entrepreneur as well as a military life and teen suicide prevention expert. Co-founder of DASIUM, Judy’s books Right Side Up  and Warning Signs: Is Your Teen at Riskare go to resources for families and her websites are filled with tips, inspiration and resources for those looking for direction. Connect with Judy at

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